We are all the same and yet very different. One of the unique things about each of us is our speed of optimum functioning.
Some people seem wired to work at a consistently fast pace, and they become nervous sitting still for too long. That type of energy is admirable, but not all of us have it.
One reason we become anxious is attempting to live at an energetic pace that takes us away from our personal zone of tranquility. This is the dynamic zone out of which we work and play at our best. If we attempt to function at a level of speed, intensity, and ambition that disturbs our built-in optimal tranquility setting, we become anxious.
Your personal speed-of-life, if it is still or steady, can be difficult to maintain in a world that moves quickly. You may frequently have to work outside your natural speed-setting to meet deadlines or accomplish what needs to be done each day.
The problem is that when the work is completed you may forget to slow down to your zone of tranquility. It then may seem you cannot handle life as well as other people. In reality, you cannot handle life at the same speed as others because you were not designed to.
All Energy Is Dynamic
Some people have an innate steady, even energy flow. Others work best from a zone of stillness. By operating too often at higher or more forceful speeds, they lose the ability to express themselves dynamically and feel anxious instead of powerful.
All types of energy—quick, aggressive, steady, and still—are dynamic and able to accomplish much. This is difficult for people with quick or aggressive energy to understand and not something people with calmer energy easily accept. However, operating consistently outside of your tranquility zone will not serve you well.
If you are a high energy person and for some reason have learned to negatively judge that, you may attempt to work “quieter.” This too will cause anxiety or frustration. If you have naturally quick or aggressive energy that is your authentic expression and the type you are most comfortable using.
- Do what you can to accommodate your type of energy at home or at your place of employment. This might involve changing jobs, talking to your boss about realistic expectations, reevaluating your household duty expectations, and making sure to take adequate breaks when working.
- Learn to appreciate your natural speed and flow of energy. Not everyone will understand it but for your own well-being it is important that you do. Remember, all types of energy are powerful, including stillness.
- It takes courage to be true to yourself when your energy is different from those around you, but energy is energy. In a world as varied as ours, it makes sense to have unique types of it. Whatever your speed-of-life happens to be it is useful and serves a purpose.