Losing a best friend is devastating

Posted on: Wed, 10/16/2019 - 11:13am
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My best friend and I had a falling out a while ago but I always thought that we would come back together. I tried reaching out to her several times but was not able to reach her. I wanted to talk everything through. Even though I feel that I wasn't in the wrong I knew that I had to be the bigger person. I heard through mutual friends that she is done with the friendship and that's devastating to me. We've been friends for over 20 years. I feel so betrayed and so upset. Since trying to contact her my anxiety has been through the rough. Sometimes I don't understand the concept of simply ignoring someone. I don't understand how someone who you've known for so long can just cut you out. I wanted to take any responsibility, I wasn't going to put everything on her because I always know there are always two sides and I know that she's hurting too. I don't know where to go from here. This has made me so anxious. Do I just let this go or keep fighting for a friendship?

Posted on: Thu, 10/24/2019 - 11:53am
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Hi Millie, that's such a difficult thing to go through. Losing a friend can be devastating, especially a best friend. It's someone who you trusted and loved and confided in for so long, then suddenly they're out of your life. I'm a big believer in a reason, season, or a lifetime as to why someone is in your life. Have faith and believe that if your best friend is meant to be in your life she will be. Maybe for now leave it and try to move on with your life as best as possible. It'll take a bit of time to heal, but you will move on and start to look at the friendship differently.

Posted on: Mon, 11/04/2019 - 3:25pm
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That's great advice Lydia. I left it and I don't plan to reach out to her anymore. I've tried my best. And you're so right, if she's meant to be in my life she will be. I feel a lot more at peace with this now. Thank you!

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